Just about the worst thing you can do, if your goal is to change my opinion, is frame the discussion in a way that leaves me no choice but to comply, like claiming that if I don't agree with your demands immediately I am a monster.
I have time and time again changed my mind about things in the course of developing Mastodon, but it's a lot harder to do when you feel forced to do so "or else"
It's odd, to say the least, to see people claim I'm refusing to put emotional labour into community management when I just spent a night awake up to 6am answering & discussing user concerns about the trending hashtags feature.
It's odd, to say the least, to hear that the feature is a testament to how I ignore community feedback when the only reason I've implemented it is because it's been continuously requested by community members since November 2016.
That just seems manipulative.